I've been a freelance writer since 1989. I write books, essays, columns, movie reviews, other reviews, features, interviews, fiction, irate letters, song parodies, and assorted commercial copy. My usual writing style is clear, conversational, personal, and funny. I'm particularly good at addressing serious subjects in a way that's engaging and entertaining and not boring, and at expressing complicated ideas clearly without being patronizing or simplistic. I write a lot about sex and sexual politics, but I write about other things too. I've had writing published in Ms., Penthouse, Skeptical Inquirer, On Our Backs, Girlfriends, many local San Francisco newspapers, and several anthologies.
The new book is out! I've just come out with a new book: Bending, an erotic novella about a woman who is sexually fixated on being bent over. More broadly, it's about obsession and what happens when you finally get enough of the thing you've been craving. Bending is published by Simon & Schuster as part of a three-novella collection edited by Susie Bright called Three Kinds of Asking For It. You can read an excerpt from it if you want to get a taste. You can buy it at Powells, at your local bookstore, or at Amazon if you absolutely must.
My first book was Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients, an anthology I edited for Greenery Press and which came out in 2004. Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients is a book of advice for sex work customers, written by sex workers and former sex workers, including Nina Hartley, Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, Vic St. Blaise, Matt Bernstein Sycamore, and many other fine writers. Find out more about the book, or read an excerpt. You can order it from Powell's, at your local bookstore, or at Amazon if you must.
My best known short piece to date is probably Are We Having Sex Now or What? If you only read one piece of my writing, it should probably be this one. This essay was originally published in the anthology The Erotic Impulse (edited by David Steinberg); it has since been reprinted several times, and has been studied and cited by scholars, writers and universities throughout the country. (Really. Do a Google search on my name + "are we having sex," and you'll see.)
My second-best-known short piece is quickly turning out to be Comforting Thoughts About Death That Have Nothing to Do with God. This essay was originally published in the Skeptical Inquirer, and it's my first nationally-published piece that wasn't about sex, so that's exciting. Seriously, I think this is one of the best pieces I've written, and it's generated more reader mail than any other piece of my writing to date. If you only have time to read one piece of my writing, this would also be an excellent choice (and it's a lot shorter than Are We Having Sex Now or What?).
I recently started writing a bi-weekly (that's every other week) column for an online sex magazine connected with AdultFriendFinder and Alt.com. I write reviews of books, movies, videos, magazines, toys, and anything else having to do with sex. It's a fun gig -- I'm basically getting paid to try out sex products and have opinions about them, what could be bad? -- and I'm doing some good, entertaining writing for them. If you want to see my latest rants about porn and sex toys, visit my index of columns, with links and everything.
In the late '90s I edited a well-regarded but short-lived online sex magazine for my employer, called Fishnet. It was a cool thing, blending smart commentary on sex with well-written dirty stories, and it had the honor of having not one but two of its stories reprinted in Best American Erotica 1999. Alas, nobody had a clear idea of how it was supposed to make any money, and it went the way of most online ventures. It's since been revived (I guess they solved the money question), but sadly, most of the pieces from the old edition aren't archived on the new version.
If you want to see a nearly-complete listing of everything I've ever published, please take a look at my writer's resume.
I'm always looking for more paid writing and editing work. If you're interested in having me write for you, or if you know of any writing work you think I'd like to do, please let me know.